Merry Christmas!

Hello beautiful friends and family, and Holiday Greetings!
We are now a family of four plus cat, and life is good!
I was 4 months pregnant at the beginning of the year, so frankly, I don’t remember much. Matthew seems to have some amnesia as well, so I’ll just give the general scoop—based on what we gathered from researching our schedule calendars and photos we’ve taken.

2010 started off with…? I know it snowed... Isaac was in “playschool” and loving it. The as-yet-unborn baby was a major kicker and mover, so I contemplated the novelty of raising a child who might move more quickly than the average 3-toed sloth. Anyway, winter…spring…not much more to relate there.

We could not have asked for better timing for Cora’s birth. She was 4 days late, much to my (then) chagrin, but the extra time allowed me to get Summer Music Together classes all settled so I could turn over the reins for a few weeks. Matthew and Isaac got their semesters all wrapped up before baby arrival. And finally, after miles of walking, hours spent in odd “turning the baby head-end down” positions, many chiropractic appointments, many Braxton Hicks contractions, one failed acupuncture treatment (needles = faint), one eggplant parmesan meal (2 if you count leftovers), and one “membrane sweep,” Cora Gayle Richmond finally made her appearance on June 4. In an early demonstration of her “move it or lose it” personality, she was born at 7:56 AM after just 5 hours of labor, much to the delight of her parents! She weighed 6’13” and was 19” long.

Since Cora was born, we spent a week in Virginia Beach with my sister Julie in July; Matthew and I saw our first opera as audience members: “Carmen!”; and we saw Cyndi Lauper in concert. Cyndi was way more fun than Carmen. We lost Isaac at the annual farm picnic—he trekked off to the swimming hole with a group of folks…without telling us first. Argh! We found our new favorite restaurant – the best home-cooked German and possibly the best food I’ve ever eaten. Aside from Mama’s, of course.

Matthew had lots of career excitement this year: He wrote and performed his first movie soundtrack for locally made “Flight of the Cardinal.” His jazz group, Like Mind Trio, has been playing a bunch. He spent a lot of time onstage for theatrical productions, playing drums in “Buddy Holly,” “Chicago,” and “Peter Pan” (in costume as an Indian chief!). And he continued to play regularly with the Asheville Symphony and Stephanie’s Id. Matthew was hired full-time at UNCA for the current school year (yippee!). We weren’t sure if the FT position would continue after this school year, but we just heard that he will be re-hired at 3/4 time for 2011-2012—great news!

Music Together is still going strong. I took the summer off from teaching, and once I started back in the fall, it was with reduced MT teaching hours and limited lessons. I’m still managing the Music Together business, but I gave up the High School drum line.

Isaac turned 5 in August and started Kindergarten. He enjoyed school at first, but he has started saying lately that he doesn’t want to go any more and that he’s been going “for SUCH a long time!” Poor guy. I’m not sure he has any idea that he’s not even halfway through the year. He has recently announced that he wants to be a scientist and possibly study snakes. His favorite sport is bowling, but since the real deal is somewhat physiologically inappropriate at this age, he’ll start soccer this spring. Here he is with his homemade bowling set this summer. He got a "real" set with 10 "real" pins for Christmas.Isaac loves his little sister, and she adores him. Their play together is a treasure. Isaac has never expressed any jealousy of the attention Cora needs--he generally loves to help wash, feed, sing to, and play with her. I love to hear the sounds of their nonsense babbling at each other and especially of Isaac singing and reading to her. The other day, he asked if I was pregnant again...yet. Whoa.



Cora is a delight. Her favorite toys are human hair (attached only), computer power cords and plastic bags and paper – the shinier the better. She’s got two bottom teeth and is in the unpleasant throes of sprouting more. She is sitting up and just starting to crawl! She's eating winter squash, bananas, and a few other "solid" foods quite enthusiastically.


We had a fun Halloween...


So there you have the high points of our year, but I’m struggling to find words to convey a general sense of the beauty and growth we’ve experienced—I want so much to share with you some small portion of the love that has surrounded our family. Through my Bible study group and Matthew’s religion/spirituality discussion group, we have separately enjoyed spiritual and philosophical conversation and fellowship. This enlivens and deepens our conversations with each other as we share our thoughts later.

We have learned to receive this year as so many of our friends and family loved us through their gifts of time, baby gear, food, and more when we welcomed Cora home. It’s surprising how challenging it can be to just accept these gifts of love that have no strings attached. I admit that I like to think I can do it all myself, and I suppose technically I could…maybe…but it is ultimately sweeter to accept love and help from others.

When Cora arrived, I started to think about how the rest of 2010 would proceed. I perceived that the dim 6-months-away future would bring cold weather and long nights, and I really dreaded it. The darkness and cold seemed like challenges to endure. However, as we’ve watched the weather and the light turn winterly, I have found myself embracing, even enjoying, the dark, the cold, the snow. I feel a greater sense of intimacy with the Divine these dark days, not in spite of, but inspired by the Winter, much as candlelight is easier to perceive and appreciate in the dark. Perhaps the gifts of 2010 have been greater than past years, but I suspect that I am far more aware of how blessed we are.

Here’s wishing you a Winter of Light and a 2011 filled with blessings and love.
Much love to you from the Richmonds!

Isaac's First Limo Ride

Yesterday, Isaac came home from school ALL a-twitter. The friend who dropped him off told me he had some very exciting news, and it was all he could do to get it out:
I: Knock knock.
Me: Who's there?
I: Ten dollars!
Me: Ten dollars who?
I: I got ten dollars at school!

Several questions later, it came to light that the "pig race" was yesterday, and Isaac won twice! You may well be asking, "Why was there a pig race at school yesterday?" Oddly enough, we're STILL experiencing the ramifications of the selling-stuff-fundraiser from several months ago. The pig race and hotdog lunch yesterday were open to any student who participated in the fundraiser. All I could discover about the pig race is that it involved wind-up toy pigs, and "whoever's pig falls off first wins."

Anyway, so now, because Isaac sold 12 items for the fundraiser, he not only won the various little prizes for selling 1, 2, 5, and 10 items (chocolate milk slime!), he garnered the title "Top seller" in the Kindergarten and thus earned himself a limo ride to downtown for a special lunch with milkshake AND a visit to the Chocolate Lounge for a free piece of chocolate, AND just for participating at all, he got to do the pig race, which he also happened to win. Also, just to kind of cap things off, Isaac got to sit next to the Mayor at the special limo lunch, because her son was a top seller in his grade (they picked 2 from each grade). Here's a photo of (probably) Isaac's favorite reward: getting his free chocolate! It was probably worth at least $2. Chocolate Lounge is very yummy gourmet level stuff.




I find it all pretty funny. Since I did all the selling, I keep thinking along the lines of, "Where's MY limo ride and free piece of chocolate and hot dog and pig race and $10?" But I probably would not have won the pig race. Perhaps with all this long-reaching positive effect, Isaac will be inspired to do more of his own selling next year.





And just for kicks, here's a photo of Isaac on blue-hair day. Also a fundraiser.

The 4th Snow Day of the Year!

Today was Isaac's 4th snow day and his 6th missed day (two missed 2 weeks ago due to strep). The homeschool thing is becoming reality in spite of his enrollment in the public school! Ha! Yesterday's interest in snakes was gone today, but we cut snowflakes out of coffee filters, had a reprise of Jingle Bells (no mistakes!), played a silly game with bouncy balls in the basement, had friends over to play for a few hours, and cleaned and partially de-cluttered Isaac's room. We did NOT go outside. It didn't get above freezing, and Cora doesn't like her hair (fuzz) to get mussed in the wind.

Cora continues to EAT. We are doing pureed banana or winter squash 2 or 3 times a day.

I continue to be mystified that the contoured changing pad with rails around is the one place where she always flips to her tummy and starts trying to crawl...whereas the wide open carpeted floor is her preferred sit-and-fuss-til-somebody-plays-with-me-or-picks-me-up spot.

School is on a two-hour delay tomorrow, and then the weather is supposed to get ugly again Thursday. Friday is the "last day" before Christmas break. Again, ha!


We made these yummy-smelling ornaments on Isaac's 2nd snow day (last week).




Another 2-hour delay:

Cora's sleeping!

So, I was just looking over Cora's sleep chart tonight and realizing that she, the baby who used to fuss-if-not-scream every time we put her in bed, has cried at bedtime very little in the past week! It seems unbelievable that just 3 weeks ago we were struggling at every nap--rolling her bassinet back and forth for 10 minutes or more, playing the music boxes or humming, and her naps were short and inconsistent. It wasn't ALL bad: bedtime seemed okay, and although she was waking every 2 or 3 hours to nurse, she was going back to bed quietly each time. But I finally got frustrated and tired enough with the napping trouble (Isaac was always such an easy napper!) that I begged a friend to loan me her much-loved copy of "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child."

A lot of the author's wisdom is stuff I already knew and common sense, but in my fog of sleep deprivation, I lacked perspective and direction. After reading, I decided to
1) put Cora down at 6 instead of 7 or 7:30 (with Isaac)
2) solidify a regular bedtime routine (which we kind of already had)
3) hardest: let her cry

The first night was rotten. She woke 4 or 5 times and cried for who-knows-how-long each time. Probably not more than 10 minutes per wakening, but an eternity to the unhappy mom. But as with most of the families who give testimonials in the book, the crying period was very brief--for us, just ONE night. In just a couple of days, she was re-trained, the naps settled into place (napping at 9 and 1 for 1.5 to 2 hours each time), and now she rarely cries when we put her in bed! When she wakes at night, she cries for a minute or two and then goes back to sleep. I'm thrilled to "pay" the one hard night in exchange for who-knows-how-many-months of difficulty (and tears from both baby and mama!). Now we're all sleeping so much better, and I'm feeling so much more sane.

Another Snow Day

What a fun day today! Mostly. It was Isaac's 3rd snow day so far this year, and tomorrow will be the 4th. I am feeling more and more like we ought to just go ahead and homeschool. I mean, I'm pretty much there anyway since with his 2 days off for strep and all these snow days, we're more used to hanging out at the house these days.

Today's Highlights:

Being ophiologists (snake scientists) with Isaac this morning. We studied anacondas on the national geographic kids site, which I think actually got a little disturbing for him after we watched the video of people catching them with bare feet and hands.

We colored designs on paper to make gift boxes for the ornaments to give to Mrs. Dowers and Mrs. McIntosh. One of the few bad times of the day came during the attempt at folding, which is difficult for me even.

A quiet snuggly lullaby moment with Cora in which she put the period on the end of my Brahms rendition with a very delicate raspberry into my neck.

Teaching Isaac how to play Jingle Bells on the small set of student bells. Some tension occurred as he (like every dadgummed student I ever have) got antsy about not being able to get the last phrase right, and so instead of working on that phrase alone, thought it best to start over at the beginning.

Feeding Cora. She now gets three portions of solid food a day. Even though she's only eating bananas and winter squash so far, she loves to eat!

My one regret is that I didn't get away from sugar today. The chocolate covered pretzels that one of my MT families gave me are just irresistable...especially since, as they're just pretzels, they're easy to mistake for "healthy," or at least "not that bad." I don't regret that I didn't walk today--it was frigid outside. But between the lack of exercise and the sugar, I'm feeling a bit toxic. There's always tomorrow...